The REAL reason 90% of women freeze in meetings...

Hey Verbalizer,

Why is it that your voice flows freely when you're alone... but disappears exactly when your wisdom matters most?

Perhaps it's time we had an honest conversation about this.

You see, it's not a confidence issue. It's not an expertise issue. And it's definitely not a "you need to speak up more" issue.

It's WAY deeper than that...

Your nervous system detects a threat (that feeling of being interrupted, dismissed, or judged) and automatically activates your freeze response. Your throat constricts. Your mind goes blank. Your voice gets stuck.

And then you blame yourself for "not being confident enough."

But here's what nobody tells you:

Speaking up isn't just a technical problem - it's a biological safety issue. One that's trying to protect you.

That's why...

• Traditional confidence trainings leave you feeling more stuck

• "Just do it" advice deepens the freeze

• And those recycled speaking techniques never quite stick

The real transformation happens when you understand this truth:

Your voice paralysis isn't a personal failure. It's a protective response. ✨

And in these moments of protection, two distinct voices emerge:

1. The Sage - your deep wisdom that speaks from truth and purpose

2. The Saboteur - those inner whispers that keep you safe... but small

Before your wisdom can rise, the Saboteurs begin their familiar dance:

"Is this really worth saying?"

"What if they disagree?"

"Maybe someone else will make this point..."

They show up as:

✨ The Restless One (always looking around at what others are doing)

✨ The Stickler (needing everything to be perfect first)

✨ The Victim (focusing on all the reasons why it won't work)

But here's the truth about your Sage:

It doesn't need rehearsal. It doesn't need permission. It simply needs space to emerge.

Because your Sage speaks through:

• Empathy rather than judgment

• Curiosity rather than certainty

• Innovation rather than imitation

• Truth rather than performance

Let me tell you something...

Your silence isn't weakness.

Your hesitation isn't failure.

Your body is doing exactly what it thinks will keep you safe.

But when you learn to distinguish between your Sage and your Saboteurs, everything shifts.

Because your wisdom? It's always been there. It's just been waiting for you to trust it.

The choice to listen to your Sage... that one is up to YOU.

Love, Laughter & Light,

'Ronke

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